Repect my Uterus and My Choices!
Soooooo I have never been one to really worry about other opinions of what I should be doing with my life but certain questions get very annoying after answering them over and over again. The main one being when are you going to have a baby? Now this may seem like an innocent enough question but at 29 almost 30 it’s become a pain in the ass! Like weekly, I hear the beginning of the conversation, so how old are you? Oh wow! you seem to have it together you have a boyfriend? So, you know I must ask, when can we expect a little one? AHHHHHH! lol This comes from family, friends, coworkers, and even strangers. Like why people feel like being a woman over 18 in a relationship automatically qualifies me as a baby maker I have no idea. How about asking me how school is going, or if I have started saving to buy a home, if I have a retirement plan, or even am I happy? But no, it is always the same when will you become a mother? Now don't get me wrong I love children (obviously this is a motherhood blog lol) but I am a firm believer in preparation. No, you can't ever REALLY be ready for parenthood but there are certain things I would like to have accomplished before I am responsible for a whole nother person. I would like to complete my education, buy a home, have a profitable business that I love and can work from home (because I want to be a stay at home mother), be married, and travel a little more. Now none of those things are impossible with a child but they would be drastically more difficult and if I have a choice (which I do thanks to modern medicine and birth control), I would prefer to wait. Does that mean I am going to wait a decade? No, but I would also like to be free of the social pressure to procreate and just enjoy my life. It seems that no matter which path I take there are always questions about why you choose one way or another but honestly, I wish people would realize asking that question isn't harmless. I have suffered a miscarriage, I have been divorced, I have been abused and assaulted and had to wonder if my attackers face would show up 9 months later and you know what asking me about my reproduction is just rude. It reminds me that while I am trying to navigate life I am also being watched and questioned by people that honestly if I got pregnant today wouldn't have a gift or babysitting in mind. I know it seems like a "normal" question but the pressure and implications are just unneeded and frankly unwelcome. I would love to say I am not trying to be mean but IDk if it sounds that way because no one wonders how it sounds when they say," what are you waiting for? or Don't wait too long you clock is ticking". My clock is just fine, my eggs aren't going to shrivel and die, my life won't be full of regret, and trust me my relationship will survive if I do things in my own time so please for my sake and the sake of all women just MYOB (yes, I took it back to elementary school with the acronym lol). I love everything about children and will love mine when its time, but today isn't the day and society needs to just understand and Put SOME RESPECT ON MY UTERUS!!!